Destiny vs Freewill - Finding Inner Peace Through Acceptance

In the realm of astrology, the ancient debate of destiny versus free will often surfaces, particularly in moments where life presents challenges or unexpected twists. As an astrologer, I have seen countless individuals question, “If everything is destined, do my choices even matter?” My journey and consultations at Sirf Astro have led me to a profound realization: While certain events are written in our stars and bound to unfold, our outlook, mindset, and responses these are the true expressions of free will.

Let me offer a practical scenario. Suppose someone is fated to encounter a car accident resulting in damage to their vehicle. Here, two responses are possible. The first person obsesses over the loss, seethes with anger, and allows the frustration to trickle into every aspect of his day creating a domino effect of negativity. His energy is spent not just repairing the car, but repairing his own mood and relationships, which suffered as a result. The second person, though aware of the loss, simply accepts what has happened, remains calm, and moves forward without letting the frustration take root. Mental peace is preserved; rather than drowning in “what could have been,” he chooses serenity over stress, and harmony follows naturally.

Destiny may be the accident but freewill shows itself in how you deal with it.

Let’s look at another scenario: career setbacks. Imagine two people faced with an unexpected job loss. One dwells relentlessly on misfortune, blaming circumstances and holding onto regret for months. This approach breeds anxiety, deteriorates self-worth, and clouds judgment for future opportunities. The other takes the same setback in stride, viewing it as a cosmic nudge toward something better. He actively searches for new growth, maintains confidence, and preserves his mental balance often opening doors he would never have noticed otherwise.

Relationships too follow a similar pattern. When destiny deals a tough hand maybe a breakup or recurring conflict freewill determines whether we harbor resentment, or instead learn, forgive, and hold space for new bonds. Acceptance doesn’t deny pain, but it allows us to find meaning and maintain peace, even as change unfolds.